Falling In Love

How we do anything is typically how we do everything.

Sometimes until we get out of our element it’s difficult to connect the dots of how our tendency in one area is actually a also tendency in another.

I have always been one to fall in love fast.

My bestie B-Train and I even have a joke that I love love and she likes like.

If I meet someone I will already have our next year planned out by date number 2 and she is like, “I’ll add you in my phone as a contact maaaaybe after 3 months. Maybe.”

I do, I love love.

I love possibility.

I love creating these beautiful futures and then living into them.

The downside can be that when I create a big fabulous beautiful future out of nothing, many times I get bitch slapped in the face when that person doesn’t even call me back for a second date or they turn out to not be the person I fantasize that they would be.

(Ahem, ahem Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody. Its a great book and yes I’ve read it.)

I meet someone and if we click I fall in love.

It’s been that way for as long as I can remember.

I used to say if I’m dating someone that they are the one until proven otherwise.

Sort of like innocent until proven guilty I suppose.

And here’s something unexpected I’ve come across on my journey so far.

Apparently this whole love love, creating possibility, going in feet first and figuring out the rest later applies to places not just people.

I love Cyprus.

I’ve fallen in love with Cypress.

We are full on in the honeymoon stage.

The water is warm. I’ve made some amazing friends. The food is amazing. Living is cheap. Brisket even seems pretty happy here.

Even though I’ve only been here a couple of weeks I started to ask myself “do I just want to stay?”

I’ve gone from coming here to simply date Cypress for a couple of weeks , to renting a flat for another two months, to asking myself do I want to marry this place?

(Fun fact it’s incredibly easy to get citizenship here. Simply be in the country for 60 days, fill out some paperwork, and bring enough cash into the country to prove that you’re not going to be a leach to their society LOL plus that tax breaks are INSANELY AWESOME)

But then in the midst of planning my wedding to Cyprus I realized I was doing it.

I was falling in love with the place before I’d even seen all the seasons.

I was falling in love with the place before I even dated any other countries.

I was doing the thing that I always do when I meet someone.

And so now it is giving me pause and a new opportunity to play with what does it really look like to just focus on today?

What does it look like to just simply be open to being here now?

What does it simply look like not to commit and go all in?

I have to catch myself daily because, much like in relationships, my brain keeps going to planning for the future.

Planning where we would live, looking at how much houses cost, planning out a future that I’m not even sure I want because I don’t know what else is out there nor what long term Cyprus life is really like.

So here I am, dating Cyprus and trying to be as aloof about it as possible.

A crazy passionate American love addict in a beautiful European country practicing the art of non-commitment.